Celebrating Adoption: The Dougherty Family

 

Alicia and Josh Dougherty are from Pittsford, NY. Josh is a special education teacher with the Pittsford Central School District. Josh also coaches football and Track and Field in Pittsford.

Alicia is a former teacher and nanny who now stays home to raise the kids. We have 7 kids with special needs, which equals a lot of appointments, therapies and activities throughout the week to manage. 

After 9 years of infertility and pregnancy losses we adopted then 5-year-old Alex from the foster care system. Two years later we adopted then 6-year-old James from the foster care system. Two years ago we got foster placement of our now 3 year old twins, who will be heading into adoption soon. During all of this we were blessed with 3 miracle pregnancies. Included in the mix of our kids we consider our adopted son’s biological sister, Bryanne, to be an honorary Dougherty, and her 3 children to be like our grandchildren. 

So in the past 7 years we’ve gone from zero children to:

Bryanne-25

Alex-11

James-10

Zoey-5

Dash-3

Twins-3

Bodhi-1

 

Plus our grandkids:

Ellianna-8

Berto-4

Maverick-4 months

(Foster twins blurred per media rules)

 

Family YouTube documentary: 

https://youtu.be/46kq-1d_m4Q

For more information on adopting from foster care contact Children Awaiting Parents 585-232-5110. childrenawaitingparents.org 

 

Photography by Melissa Siena of A Snap In Time Photography.

Videography by Todd Elliott Media at Toddemedia.com 

November is National Adoption Month

 

November is National Adoption Month! Help us in raising awareness and funds for our endowment.

History of National Adoption Month

For over two decades National Adoption Month has been promoted and celebrated every November in communities across the country. Many national, State, and local agencies as well as foster, kinship care, and adoptive family groups will help spread the word through programs, events, and activities that help raise awareness for thousands of children and youth in foster care who are waiting for permanent, loving families.

To learn more information visit ChildWelfare.gov and National Adoption Day.org

National Adoption Day 2017 is on November 18. We are asking for your support of $18 to build our endowment and open the grant cycle for 2018.

You can visit our website to submit an on-line donation or send a check. We are a 501 c(3) non-profit charity.

Help us make the dream of parenthood a reality. Help us build families through adoption.

 

I Am a Dream Come True

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Help us spread awareness with our, “I am a Dream Come True” t-shirt campaign. #Iamadreamcometrue

We are selling baby and toddler t-shirts to help raise funds for our endowment.

The shirts come in sizes 6-12 months, 12-18 months, 2T and 3T.

They are $12.00 plus $3 for S/H. Visit our paypal page to purchase.

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We are in the process of the 2106 grant submission process- the deadline is January 15, 2016. All applications must be postmarked by that date.

Visit our Grants page for more information.

To receive an application email us at info@parenthoodforme.org. Make sure to put “Adoption” or “Medical” in the subject line.

We wish you all peace and prosperity in the new year.

 

 

 

Season of Hope

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Today we start our Season of Hope Grant Cycle.

Deadline for applications is January 15, 2016.

Eligibility Requirements are as follows:

Parenthood for Me, Inc. does not base our grant applicant decisions on religion, marital status or sexual orientation.

We do take applicants who are experiencing infertility from a medical diagnosis such as cancer. And we do support our Veterans dealing with fertility issues due to their injuries.

  • Must be a US citizen residing in the US.
  • Must show financial hardship
  • Cannot currently have children
  • If adopting must have a completed homestudy
  • Must provide a letter from a Reproductive Endocronologist with your diagnosis/prognosis

Please check the FAQ page for any questions and further details.

PFM does not reimburse for a completed adoption or procedure.

A Family Like Mine on TV

Remember the Cheerios commercial that raised all the controversy with the interracial family? The ad received so many negative comments that it was pulled from the air. General Mills decided to reinstate a new version of the ad many months later after receiving more attention when it disappeared. People praised the company for depicting an interracial family and putting out a really cute ad.

I recently saw an ad for E.ggo waffle that hit home with me. The family is a white mom, dad and daughter in the first scene and then walks in an Asian son. I thought it was so awesome to see a family similar to mine in a mainstream tv ad. It gave me hope that when my children are a bit older, they will see more families like ours shown in the media.

But, my mind also turned to the fact that many people would have hateful and negative things to say about this commercial- making a bigger deal out of the fictional family and focusing on things that are unimportant.

If you haven’t seen the commercial yet, check it out here.

Peer Support Group

 
 
 
Please join us for our Peer Support Group for Infertility/Miscarriage/Stillbirth
 
Thursday, April 2, 2015
 
7 PM
 
620 Titus Avenue, Irondequoit
at the end of Hudson Avenue
 
Share your story or just sit and listen in a confidential setting.
 
We look forward to seeing you then.
 
 



RESOLVE’S Wear Orange for Valentine’s Day

From the RESOLVE.org website:

 
Go Orange for Infertility Awareness this Valentine’s Day

Orange Walk of Hope TeamIn solidarity with RESOLVE and infertility awareness, show your orange this Valentine’s Day! Help RESOLVE show some love for the 1 in 8 couples facing infertility today in the U.S.

Ways to participate:

1. Wear something orange and pose with someone you love who showed support during your infertility journey and take a selfie! (i.e. friends, family, furbabies)

2. Make a sign or a video telling us why infertility awareness is important to you.

3. Use the hashtags #IFawareness #resolveorg

4. Share with RESOLVE and your network on Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and Facebook.

Let’s use Valentine’s Day to show our friends and family that we care about increased awareness of infertility issues through public education and advocacy. We will be looking out for your #IFawareness #resolveorg messages and we will be sharing our favorite posts.

*Photo credit RESOLVE.org

At Peace Together, At Last

On Friday I said good-bye to the last of my grandparents; my Nana was age 94.

At 36 I would say I am pretty lucky. I also lost my paternal grandmother this year. Both women lived very long and full lives, but it is never easy to say good-bye. Solace comes when envisioning each of them holding hands once again with my grandfathers. At peace together, at last.

Now closes a chapter of my life that left me feeling somewhat close to my childhood. Spending time with  grandparents as an adult brings you back to your younger days in many ways. My Nana’s age and wisdom always humbled me and made me feel child-like in her presence. And now that she is gone, I have moved up in the ranks. My children won’t benefit from having the influence of their great grandparents. Therefore, my job became all the more important.

My Nana was one tough lady. We thought she was going to pass away over two years ago. It really looked like the end. So much so that when I found out that I had become pregnant after 9 years of trying, I felt the need to flee to her house as she lay in bed and tell her the wonderful news. Nana was  one of my greatest confidants during a very difficult time in my life; I know she cried many tears as I struggled to get pregnant and thought perhaps I would never be a mother.

Alas, she rallied and saw my beautiful baby days after she was born. She also got to witness her grow and thrive for the first 18 months of her life. I am so grateful to have had that time with her.

Now comes the task of cleaning out her house and possessions. My mother bears most of the burden of this exhausting job. It’s so funny how meaningless possessions become once the house is empty of the person who once lived there. The bins of hats and gloves and cupboards of food while full, seem vacant at the same time. There really is nothing more important in life than the ones you love.

I only hope to have the priviledge of caring for my parents as they age. I know it is not an easy task by any means. But I want to have them in my life as long as possible. Watching your parent care for their elderly parents is very humbling. It really reflects how fleeting life is. I have often thought that in a blink of an eye, I will be the caregiver and my children will be there to spend the final years with their beloved grandparents soaking up the memories and reliving their childhoods.

Show Your Face

When Parenthood for Me, Inc. was founded in 2008 there were only a few other organizations that offered financial assistance for adoption or Assisted Reproductive Technology. Throughout the past six years I have seen a few come and go.

I would like to recognize s fellow non-profit named AGC Scholarships www.agcscholarships.org and its founder, Aprill Lane. Taken from their “About” page:

AGC is nonprofit group committed to providing both advocacy and scholarships for those struggling with infertility in the United States.

Help put a face to infertility and join AGC’s I Am the Face #Iamtheface campaign on Twitter and Facebook.

Thanks for all you do and being an ally to Parenthood for Me.

Here we are! Show your face too.

 
#Iamtheface#1in8#hopeneverfails

The First 14

We have reached 14 months already. Baby is the same age as Min when he came home from Korea. When I was waiting for him to come home, I was very sad for all that I missed in his development. And now that I have experienced that with Sammie, I wish even more that I had witnessed all the various stages of infancy with my boys. Whenever she would make a milestone, I wondered when they made the same milestone. It is difficult not knowing how and when they started teething, sleeping through the night and crawling. I will not be able to explain to them when they first said a word or took their preliminary steps. There will be many blanks I cannot fill in on their timeline of life. The baby books I provide will start at the time they came home with only a few details of their life in Korea.

There is a chance I can get in contact with their foster mothers at some point. They will be able to share with us what their first 14 and 19 months were like; I hope I can help facilitate this reunion of information for them so they know their story.

As for life with 3 children, busy does not even begin to explain my days. We got through all of the spring birthdays and are now into summertime with activities and mini-vacations.

Here in Western NY we only get about 10 weeks of warm weather, so we are going to enjoy it to the fullest.